Friday, September 19, 2008

nice vs. rude

Kalyn has had some " tickets" pulled at school. Not many. Just enough to get our attention. She got into the truck today when I picked her up from school. As soon as I asked her if she had a good day, tears well up in her eyes. She said" I lost a ticket today." She explained to me what happened and of course it is someone else's fault ( always is, you know). The class was coming into the room from P.E. A boy asked Kalyn to look into the hallway to see if the teacher was coming. So, the teacher sees Kalyn poking her little self out to snoop.
It is so hard for her to differentiate between being nice to someone and just saying "No". She associates saying "no" as being rude. How many times have we said,"Be nice" or "Treat others the way you want to be treated."? I tried my very best to explain to her how Steven and I are trying to raise her to be nice, but not a push-over, how to say "no, I don't want to do that." and still be nice and friendly and sweet. We want her to be able to take a stand, not be coerced, not affected by peer pressure but she is only seven and I already foresee the peer pressure thing being an issue. It absolutely eats her up inside for someone not to "like" her. I hope that she eventually understands the difference. Life is full of choices, in every direction. I pray that she chooses wisely.

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